Stop your ego from getting in the way of what you really want

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What is the most difficult type of conflict to resolve?

Maybe it’s when you are in conflict with someone who has much more power than you, like your boss. Or perhaps it’s when the stakes are highest and you have the most to lose. These situations are challenging. But the toughest conflict to resolve is when you don’t know what it is you really want. If you can’t see what it is that you really want from a dispute, you can’t hope to resolve it. …


The character, and the show itself, are easy to underestimate

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In our current age of Peak TV, we’ve become accustomed to the role of “anti-hero”, or a lead character who doesn’t engage in conflict with traditional moral values. Ted Lasso is not that kind of character. When we first meet the title character of this Apple TV + show, he is on a flight to England making the improbable transition from college football coach to Premier League soccer coach, a job that he doesn’t appear qualified to do.

On the plane, Ted gets his first taste of the resistance he’s…


Using the term “bodyfulness” can get you out of your head

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If you find yourself increasingly frustrated with someone in your workplace, and can’t figure out what you can do to improve the situation, the answer may not reside in your mind. It may be your body that holds the key.

I’ve practiced mindfulness for twenty years, but it wasn’t until a few years ago that I really began to understand what a profound impact the body has on the mind. Mindfulness is the practice of non-judgmental awareness of the present moment. When practicing mindfulness, my tendency had been to…

Tom Reilly

Conflict Management Coach with a passion for finding creative ways of turning adversaries into allies. tomreillycoaching.com

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